A guy i hooked up with, thought he was talking shit about me, wasn't. The girl who wanted him was lying to both parties. Now he's at my place all the time. I don't know how to not care about him.
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GX said, (57 days ago)
Well, he and I are very honest with each other, and he knows how upset he made me. He's decided to make some changes in his life, and I totally support him.
GX said, (57 days ago)
The only problem is that in the midst of all of that has been going on, he has been pretty much making a place in my life that I don't know if I want him to have. I am starting to care about him more than I want.
GX said, (57 days ago)
He stays at my place, usually in my bed, but we don't fool around at all. Not even kissing. And it all confuses me to no end.
more pepper! said, (57 days ago)
confusion and worry are no bueno. tell him you want to be his friend, but this is blurring lines and you need to take the boundary back.
if you don't, and you get hurt, it's your own fault. i have to tell myself that all the damn time.
Superion said, (57 days ago)
Weinerito nails it.
You gotta know what you want from him, and then set that expectation. If he fucks with it, and you let him, you're agreeing to it, which leads to...well sometimes good and sometimes no good.
soulcamp said, (57 days ago)
No matter how sincere he might sound, he cannot be trusted. Going back to coke after three years of sobriety is a sign of deep-rooted problems that you cannot help him resolve. I don't mean to sound cruel or uncaring, but I have been down this path several times with friends and family members. You HAVE to cut him off before you get any deeper. You really deserve better than someone who is going to dump a heap of problems on your lap and expect you to take care of them for him. Trust me, the number of problems will continue to grow, and the more you invest in him emotionally, the more guilt you will have when you have to cut him off later. :-[
GX said, (57 days ago)
I always want to help someone if i can. That's where i'm at right now. I know that he wants someone in his life who will help him and he is looking towards me. I just don't know if I can be who he needs in his life without getting too emotionally attached. I do plan on having a heart to heart with him tonight to see where we stand with each other.
He was,at one point in his life, heavily on blow. He's been clean for 3 years til saturday. I wanted to cry when he showed up at my house bc I knew he had done a line. He told me that night that he was sorry and admitted what he had done.