Okay. Who knows a guy for my best friend?
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Zab said, (540 days ago)
When you mentioned her I meant to ask if she's tried e-harmony? I always thought it was just for tools, but now know of cool smart, work-too-much type women who've either found nice guys or are having a lot of fun using it to date, so maybe it's worth a shot...
I don't, unfortunately...you have spoken glowingly of her before. I'm sorry about her recent misfortune, and I too hope she finds someone worthy.
be secret and exult said, (540 days ago)
@Ghostie -- She already has a dog.
@Zab -- I am already Cyrano-ing an OKC account for her with no results except it is reminding me how much I hated dating and how creepy men are. I think she specifically asked me not to use eharmony but I can't remember why.
be secret and exult said, (540 days ago)
@stagewalker -- Yes. I thought of you too, but she has different expectations from you about kids.
be secret and exult said, (540 days ago)
@Oom -- I thought perhaps Redbecca would know an absent-minded historian or somethin'.
AArtaud said, (540 days ago)
bse: I'll ask Becca. She knows lots of boys, but I dunno if any are worthy and/or single.
sodoff jonathan said, (540 days ago)
eharmony was created and is run by crazy Christians. They forbid gays, for one thing, and they reject many people from joining based on answers to their long questionnaire (like, for example if you answer "yes" to having ever experienced depression).
OKCupid has the problems you'd expect from a free service: with zero barriers to entry and no limit on the number of messages you can send, the creeps write to nearly every female with a cut-and-paste boilerplate message. The avalanche of creepiness will subside after a week or two. It's also much more useful if you answer a LOT of the "improve matches" questions.
If she's going the online route, maybe the Salon.com personals? That user base is generally educated and politically aware -- though you're also mixed in with the users of The Onion and Nerve.com.
be secret and exult said, (540 days ago)
When I was online dating for myself (as opposed to puppet mastering her account)I used the Onion and I recall the crazy avalanche of creepiness never subsided. It doesn't seem to be for her either, which is actually why I am pre-screening the letters for her.
be secret and exult said, (540 days ago)
However, I am firmly of the opinion that all the good boys were on Consumating, so that's why I am posting for her here as well.
be secret and exult said, (540 days ago)
@art -- Great, actually. I was just at her pre-moving in with delightful musician tag-sale where I acquired a Bolivian wrestling mask and a sarong with the Brazilian flag and two coats of hers which I have admired for more than a decade.
Scapegrace said, (540 days ago)
Oh, damn. Good though, at least she won't get too lonely waiting.
But I agree with you about all the good boys being on consumating. I really don't know where else you would find them.
Stagewalker said, (539 days ago)
@be secret and exult: Yeah, the kids thing continues to be an issue for me when trying to date. "I really, really like you, but I know I want kids some day, so this isn't going to work" has been a phrase I've gotten quite used to.
this is probably why 98% of the people who check me out on OKCupid are in their upper 40's. I'm sure I'll be prime dating material in a decade if I'm still single.
She sounds like a cool best friend. I hope she does find someone real nice who deserves her.