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Roadrunner said, (120 days ago)
She's uncomfortable. Maybe I've been pressing too much. We're going to talk about it after she gets back from her trip.
whereismyjetpack said, (120 days ago)
i've not got time for girls who don't know what they want. actually, i've not got time for most all girls... I'm almost 100% certain that this girl isn't worth another 20 minutes of your time.
Mrs. Cakes said, (120 days ago)
How many times did you try to invite her over? Maybe she just isn't that into you.
Roadrunner said, (120 days ago)
@tea - If it were any other girl... but I really like this one. I respect her, and I look up to her in some ways. Girls like her don't come around my life too often, let alone show any interest.
Maybe it's just a difference in dating style. Who knows?
Roadrunner said, (120 days ago)
@Ginger - Three times, off the top of my head. I haven't been keeping a tally. And you're right, maybe we're not on the same page. I am, admittedly, not the best at reading signals.
smart- tea said, (120 days ago)
@Roadrunner: I know its hard when you really like someone but sometimes you have to let it go before it comes back to you. Maybe right now timing isn't right for her and you can't change that anyway you try. In the time being tho - don't beat yourself up about it. I am sure you're a real catch to be had honey bunny!
Roadrunner said, (120 days ago)
@tea - I know. I'm not browbeating myself (i.e., not thinking any less of myself), but it's a major bummer. And, we *did* go through this before last fall, so maybe it's not meant to be. Still, major sadness.
Merry JasAsian v2.0 said, (120 days ago)
repeatedly inviting after being twice declined is just beating your head against a wall. Since this isn't the Victorian era, if she actually wants to hang out with you but has declined twice for whatever reasons, she'll let you know.
Roadrunner said, (120 days ago)
That's a good point.
I guess we'll find out when she gets back. It's going to be a loooooooong week.
Merry JasAsian v2.0 said, (120 days ago)
Just play it cool, man. When a girl is genuinely into you, you should find yourself having to negotiate to spend time with her.
Merry JasAsian v2.0 said, (120 days ago)
@rr - oops...that should read "you SHOULDN'T find yourself..."
Namrok said, (119 days ago)
I have a rule. I ask a woman to do something once. Coffee, hang out, movie, whatever. If they say no, then its in their court. If they never ask ME to do anything, then I move on.
The thing you have to understand about women, even the ones you like, is that they will always give a plausible excuse about why they can't hang out with you. You will NEVER hear a woman say "I'd rather not".
And asking repeatedly doesn't say "Hey, I like you!" it says "Hey, I'm a loser!" for some reason. Still trying to figure that one out.
Community Toy said, (119 days ago)
It's not a mystery. Desperate and clingy is not attractive, and it's just as not attractive when a boy does as when a girl does it.
Namrok said, (119 days ago)
Well yeah, I mean I get that. If you ask someone every day for weeks, total desperation. But 3 times? Spaced over a month? That's bullshit.
The line seems absurdly low. Ask twice, ever, and suddenly you are desperate.
At least that's how its rolled in my experience.
Roadrunner said, (119 days ago)
I gave it some thought, and maybe I did it more often than I remember. Sometimes jokingly. Sometimes in a bad attempt at flirtation. I do wish we had more just-the-two-of-us time. There seems to always be so many people around, especially our mutual friends.
What happened?