Is it strange that I expect (or hope?) that my ex will be helpful when I talk to him about issues I'm having with our daughter? As it is, he will sometimes listen (though it's usually half listening), but never actually gives any input... it's very frustrating to me.

Maybe he doesn't know?

If he has a history of not listening then, yes, it's strange that you expect more from him. :-/

@dann: No.. he's getting worse.. I have a feeling the girlfriend is meddling.

@ss: That's my line of thinking.. I mean I'm not expecting him to drop everything and come running.. but I need him to actually COparent with me.. which means helping out from time to time.. or at least that's how I read it. I think he expects us to live in our own separate worlds (again, I think the gf has a hand in this) and only see/talk to each other on handoff day.. which is just wrong, if you ask me.

I understand COMPLETELY what you're going through. I've tried time and time again with my own ex to get more communication with him about our son. He's literally said to me, "Why should I tell you anything?" um... because we have a child together maybe? Excuse me for wanting to know if my sons actions are consistent from household to household. I'm not looking forward to discussing where Saxon will go to school next year at all.

Oh and I still hope that the next time I call him, he'll be more helpful... though he never is.

Hang in there darlin. Hugs!