I have a horrible feeling that the girl I met on the subway the other night might actually be my top match on OKCupid.

And not just locally, but within about 1000 miles. Second highest I have ever seen.

92% Match, 81% Friend, 0% Enemy.

If you'd like the details of the encounter, having been out drinking after work with some pseudo-colleagues (A couple of photographers who work where I do, and the (International) Managing Director of the company I work for; more on that later maybe) I made my way to Victoria station, having forgotten that midweek the Victoria Line closes at 10pm for engineering. When I got there, there was a young lady asking the attendant how to get North to her stop using an alternative route. Overhearing this and noticing she was going my way, I offered to show her how to get there. I am nice like that.

During the journey we got chatting and it all seemed pleasantly friendly albeit a little stunted because I am a terrible conversationalist and struggle with chit-chat. While I considered asking for her number before leaving the train, I felt such a casual situation would be better left as a enjoyable crossing of paths and so simply said it was nice to meet her and headed home.

I'll most likely never see her again.

I could perhaps send a message to OKCupid woman but there's no way that's not gonna scream creepy psycho if it is her, or crazy psycho if it isn't.

Plus OKCupid lady is listed as in a relationship.

Plus I don't write to anyone on OKCupid because I prefer the ethereal possibility of interest to the grim actualised disenchantment of silent rejection.

Their algorithm is indeed crap.

Oh well, but you know what they say, "A faint heart never laid a fair lady."

So... the more important question I think, is what will you be doing should something like this happen again?

Same thing probably. I can't seem to convince myself attractive young women are genuinely interested in underwhelming drunks who can't hold down a conversation.

Eh. Nothing ventured, nothing gained, right?

That is a good point actually.. since I know the approximate length of your self imposed celibacy - does that mean you haven't made a move in all that time?

@ beccah. : I resent the suggestion that my celibacy is self-imposed and not socially inflicted.

I don't tend to make moves. The opportunity doesn't tend to arise often, I don't get out much and rarely see any signs of interest. Also I'm not exactly adept or confident when it comes to such matters. Solitude is the cumulative effect and pretty much self-perpetuating. I only get less attractive the longer I'm single.

Hmm. I dunno.

In other news, some Brazilian dude is now attempting to "befriend" me, on OKCupid, in what I can only assume is Portuguese.

I'm starting to feel like I'm the subject of some schadenfreude driven version of The Truman Show. Pathos must amuse the gods.

Why is this a bad thing? Just send a short message to her.

Put the subject as "Victoria Station closes a @ 10" or something. Write something like "Hey, were you the person I helped out at Victoria Station last week?"

If it's her, awesome. Exchange a few messages "what are the odds" ,"you seemed nice" whatever. And if things go well, then ask her for a nonthreatening coffee or lunch.

If it doesn't go well or if you don't click, oh well.

If it's not her, then she probably wont respond.

Either way you have nothing to lose, because as you said, you'll most likely never see her again (unless you take action)