Will you guys please tell me how to be nice to cute boys? I find making eye contact nearly impossible, and smiling completely so. HOW DO I BECOME NOT BASHFUL?
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mamanese said, (108 days ago)
Some people are more inclined to talk to boys if they find them attractive, but I'm always less inclined because I'm afraid they're gonna be like "why is this girl smiling at me I do not find her attractive at all NICE TRY."
I was talking to my best friend about this tonight, and we are convinced that, if we just muster up enough confidence to SMILE at people, we can seduce all the cute boys we want.
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Angus MacSmitey said, (108 days ago)
Good thing you're a girl. Being so bashful it's unbearably cute actually works for you folks.
Britt said, (108 days ago)
Make eye contact and when it's returned, smile and look at the floor. Repeat.
Garak said, (108 days ago)
how are you bashful?
like...what do you do?
clam up?
get giggly/goofy?
find yourself saying odd stuff, then being like, "i have no idea why i just said that."?
get uncomfortable?
get nervous/stressed out?
just askin' cause there's varying degrees, and i'm just wondering if it's "crippling", the way it is for some
mamanese said, (108 days ago)
@hey_oblomov: I know that bashfulness can be cute, but I'd like to still be adorably bashful while being able to actually smile at people instead of looking away.
I guess I should just practice on my friend Doug at Wawa.
Naturelle Rivera said, (108 days ago)
I have this same problem, man. I don't talk to people (really, anyone, but espesh cute boys) unless they talk to me first. It makes people think I'm super arrogant or stand offish, but really I'm just ridiculously shy and I always feel like I'm bothering people. buh.
mamanese said, (108 days ago)
@garak: It's not crippling, but I do feel uncomfortable/nervous/stressed/clammed up. I basically just look like I don't care about anything. I'm still able to make normal conversation, so at least I don't turn stupid.
I basically do everything but show that I'm actually interested.
mamanese said, (108 days ago)
omg when I get coffee tomorrow I'm totally going to try that smile/look at floor thing on hot guy. Cause I'm sure if I actually do smile at him, the only thing I'll want to do is look at the floor afterward due to EXTREME EMBARRASSMENT.
@phro: I know what you mean, sister. I'm sure I seem standoffish too. :(
Naturelle Rivera said, (108 days ago)
Around boys, I actually go out of my way to pretend I'm NOT interested, to the point of actually IGNORING the boy I'm interested in. Cos that's not completely counter-productive. Wah.
Britt said, (108 days ago)
Totally do it. It works on several levels cos if you have a fear that he'll be all 'pff, no' then the looking at the floor kind of tells him that you know that anyway so no embarassment! That's the worst case scenario though. The better result is they smile back and so on and so forth.
mamanese said, (108 days ago)
The coffee man I'm in love with has been trying to make eye contact with me for WEEKS cause I think he knows I love him since I NEVER LOOK HIM IN THE EYES. So I bet when I smile at him he'll be like "holy crap this is new and exciting"
and ask me out
and we'll have sex after our date
sparky said, (108 days ago)
Yeah, if some cute girl tried that on me I'd be all "wait, is she actually attracted to me?!", and then I'd be completely confused because that just doesn't happen.
mamanese said, (108 days ago)
It's just annoying because I know I am attractive enough to seduce a cute boy or two, but if I always seem so standoffish then it will never happen.
Also it's annoying that a smile is sometimes all it takes, and I'll get loads of confidence if that smile is returned, but meanwhile IT'S SO HARD FOR ME TO DO SUCH A SIMPLE THING.
I think too much.
Naturelle Rivera said, (108 days ago)
ooh baby make it hurt so good
SOMETIMES LOVE DONT FEEL LIKE IT SHOULD
sparky said, (108 days ago)
My friend is organising a huge 90's party. Luckily that song is too old to play at it.
mikkoman said, (108 days ago)
Smiles are irresistible! Last night my best friend and I were hanging out with a married couple. The wife was bright, smiley, and outgoing and had us doing whatever she wanted.
erica said, (108 days ago)
Yeah, smiles do help. I know this not because I am good at them (I have the same problem), but I've seen others do it well.
What was my advice again? I'd actually probably go with drinking too.
mamanese said, (108 days ago)
I'M DOING BADLY TODAY, LADIES & GENTLEMEN.
And no I am not going to drink.
mamanese said, (107 days ago)
Aw sparky you can't tell but I'm always smiling at you from my computer.
I am not sure that bashfulness is curable. You just need to learn to be so bashful it's unbearably cute.