Ok so. My desperate friend.
If you're not familiar with my desperate friend, please see this thread:
http://goteaminternet.com/show/19627
My desperate friend. She's not giving up! She's talking about going into the restaurant where the guy works AGAIN, and asking him "when are we hanging out?" She says if he doesn't do anything after that, then she's forgetting about him. But I actually doubt she will.
She's asking me what she should wear, cause she has "to look super good this time."
But he is so obviously NO LONGER INTERESTED IN HER. HE HASN'T CALLED HER AFTER 2 MONTHS OF EXCHANGING PHONE NUMBERS. And I don't want to see my friend get rejected and/or heartbroken. And our best friend and I don't know if we should talk to her about it, or just let her do what she wants.
And I feel stupid meddling in her business to begin with. I just don't want her to be all sad. Hmph.
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mamanese said, (56 days ago)
It looks like the worst movie ever made in my life.
I still have to see Wall-E.
scurvyman said, (56 days ago)
Mama. You gotta say something. Your friend already HAS been rejected, she just hasn't realized it yet. And she's probably going to feel worse if she realizes it because of something he says or does, or weeks down the line.
I don't know HOW to have that kind of conversation though. But I'm with you -- this is just going to end in her being sad, and I don't even want that by this point already and I don't know her at all
Previous Toast said, (56 days ago)
At this point, the best you can do is let her screw up and hope she learns something from it. Which sucks. *shrug*
H55 said, (56 days ago)
Agree with scurvy. Even when you say it to her directly, she's not going to *get* it until she's ready to, but at least that'll be a swift kick in the right direction.
sparky said, (56 days ago)
I concur. It'll probably suck. But if nothing else you've got to at least prepare her to be cut down again.
mikkoman said, (56 days ago)
I'll sprinkle fairy dust from my magic wand onto her forehead so she'll forget all about him.
If there's a better euphemism to use there, please substitute as needed.
mamanese said, (56 days ago)
@everyone: Thx for your wisdom. I think I'ma say something next time she goes EMMMMYYYYY WHAT DO I DO? (which is pretty much every few minutes).
Except I've already said stuff like "If I were you, I'd stop putting so much effort into something that you're obviously not getting anything out of."
and
"You know, if he hasn't done anything in 2 months, then I'm really not sure he's going to, so maybe you should stop trying."
she listened to this last one and said "Yeah, you're right. I'm going in on Monday to ask him when we're hanging out. If he doesn't call me, then I guess I'll stop."
So I think I either need to sit her down and slap some sense into her, or just let her do what she's so intent on doing.
mamanese said, (56 days ago)
ALSO JEEZ, if she says something awful like "are we still gonna hang out," he's obviously going to reply all enthusiastically, like "oh yeah definitely, I've just been really busy. I'll call you though."
And then she'll get all excited
and then he won't call
AAH.
mamanese said, (56 days ago)
She's 19 and has only really had one actual relationship in her life. I guess she's just unsure as to how she should go about things.
But yeah, she's pretty insecure. I've heard lots of "omg he's too cute for me anyway" and crap like that.
Community Toy said, (56 days ago)
You should buy a copy of that He's Just Not That Into You book and wordlessly give to it her. I don't know if the book is relevant or not but the TITLE should convey the proper message.
mamanese said, (56 days ago)
Haha yeah, that's what Phro said I should do. I'll consider it if she continues to totally ignore my advice.
H55 said, (55 days ago)
Then there's really not much you can do. If she really does think that he is too cute for her, she's going to keep going back every time he gives a brief glimpse her way, because it is attention from a guy that is OMG SO HOT. Everything she's done so far screams that any stock she may normally put in personality has gone right out the window.
Hahahah also wtf is with this Hellboy 2 crap?