Interesting discussion for Father's Day: How old do you have to be to considered a bachelor?
I turned 29 this week. While I do have girlfriends and get dates, I really don't have any marriage prospects on the horizon. This doesn't bother me much, but during my early to mid-20s I was mostly in school, so I didn't seem much like an outlyer to be nowhere near marriage.
But in the family/kid-centric city of El Paso, it has become appearent to me that I'm drifting farther and farther from the norm. Now, I acknowledge that the norm with GTI'ers is single and unmarried, but I think we're all a bit of an anomoly in our communities, or living in areas that single people tend to flock to like LA or New York. The point is that I seem to lying farther and farther from the "norm" for starting a family, even by the late-marrying standards of the higher-educated.
Anyway, the question remains...I'm 29, and enjoy an active dating life, but have no desire for marriage or even a live-in girlfriend right now. Am I officially a bacehlor?
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Sarah von Pantyhose said, (169 days ago)
at 29???? really?
I think this is based on peergroup, which is why I asked about the friend thing.
Salomea said, (169 days ago)
You're a bachelor if you are a man of marriageable age who is not married. You've been one for a while. There are eligible bachelors though, of which you are one, and confirmed bachelors, which you don't seem to be yet.
JasAsian v2.0 said, (169 days ago)
@ Hot Rod - No, I don't think there's really anything bad about it...I just didn't really ever seriously consider myself one until lately.
@ Sarah - well, it kinda depends which peer group you're talking about. If you count the "kids" that I hang out with for my 2nd bachelor's, it's probably something like 70% married or engaged (even a few divorced). Even if you include the people I went to college and grad-school with, which are such a family minded demographic, it's still something like 50% or so.
@ Sal & Pepper - Good modifiers there...thanks. :-)
Sarah von Pantyhose said, (169 days ago)
ok then. that's crazy.
if in 3 years 70% of my friends are married or engaged I might die.
Angus MacSmitey said, (169 days ago)
Isn't the definition of "bachelor" just "a single dude"?
In any event, of my pre-San Francisco friends, 88% have been married at least once at this point.
Whereas less than 20% of my SF friends have been.
It's all about your peer group.
Xopchipili said, (168 days ago)
Of my four groomsmen, when I got married every one of them was single. Not even dating anyone at the time of the wedding. That was 2004.
Jump to now, I'm single, and every single one of the is either married or engaged. Even my little brother is getting married next month.
Pagne said, (168 days ago)
For awhile nearly all of my friends were married and/or had kids. You know what I did? I got new friends.
what percentage of your friends are married?