M/F Friendships. Myth? Truth? Do you have a close friend from the opposite gender? Has sex ever gotten in the way?

I have many male friends, and sex was never an issue, because it has never happened.

I also have friends where sex did happen (10-15 years ago) and it would never happen again, so sex didn't get in the way. It just bumped into the friendship said "Oh excuse me" and got out of the way.

I have a lot of friends who are girls. Just friends.

i have friendships with guys i've had sex with and the sex has never gotten in the way

i also have guy friends who i have never slept with, and guy friends who i have made out with, and guy friends who i have slept with a whole bunch.

sex gets in the way with girl friends more often, actually.

I've always had several close female friends, and while sex hasn't gotten in the way with most of them, there have been a couple in the past where it did, and we are no longer friends.

However, those were a long time ago, and only two ever.

I have a lot of female friends. With one of them we had to talk about her having feelings for me, and we managed to move along just fine without it getting in the way, with another she's my ex so there was plenty of sex, but after the break up those feelings dissipated and we're totally fine now.

One of my best friends is a dude. I guess we started off with the sex thing, because we had crushes on each other for a loooong time, but we moved past that without ever even kissing.

i don't understand why it's rare.

It's not rare at all! If all of my male friends and I were fucking, I'd be a very busy girl.

I don't think I've ever been seriously attracted to any of my male friends. Well, sometimes I have and told them so, and they were like, "uh thanks," and I was like, "well, just wanted to let you know," and then we went on as before.

Most of my best friends are women. A couple of them are people I have asked on dates in the past (in the beginning stages of those friendships), and they said no, and it was never an issue again. (It helps that, once I got to know them, I realized both times that it never would've worked out between us anyway.)

A few are people I'm at least somewhat attracted to, but I'll never admit it for one reason or another (I think they'd reject me, they're not single, etc.) I've never had any problem abiding by those decisions -- if I was really severely pining over them or something, I would've said something. And yeah, to address Ginger's assertion, I'd probably have sex with and/or date these people if they brought the subject up. (Well, provided they were single -- if they weren't, I'd be pretty seriously disappointed in them.) But I wouldn't bring it up myself, and anyway, this is only a subset of my female friends.

And then there are some who I'm not particularly attracted to and never have been.

As for your questions... I don't know how to answer your first (and third) question, because that's never happened to me. I've been a bit disappointed for a while and moved on. Maybe wait a few days? Second question's a bit tougher -- that much having been said, I've found plenty of reasons to hate the people my friends date. Some of my friends date bad people. That is just what they do. It's no different from the frustration of one's friends doing anything else stupid that you can't stop them from doing.