I am still waiting for all the guys it didn't work out with to come back and talk to me. Not in a romantic way. But because I really think we'd make good friends! (I mean people with whom there was an initial mutual interest, and then stuff just never quite got off the ground.) Am I weird in this?

I told this one guy the other week that I could not date him, but that I enjoyed talking with him/hanging out too, yadda yadda. Then he seemed surprisingly stunned when next few times I saw him, I came up to chat with him and hung out for a while. But I meant it that I enjoyed his company! Why do people think it has to be dating or nothing in these situations?

Yeeah, it might be taken as being condescending.