Does a friend always give her/his honest opinion?
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and I law her said, (231 days ago)
But what if your friend is doing something that is bad for them? For others?
Grey said, (231 days ago)
Short of very hard drugs or plotting a murder...you can't stop them...for others...just enlist the others...people do sometimes listen to other people (friends) when they have a mob backing them up
lay oale said, (230 days ago)
In some cases no.
for instance, I will never tell someone how to act in a relationship or advertise the fact that I really don't like their SO, until they break up.
If they are doing something truly harmful to themselves, I will tell them the truth, but probably only if they ask or volunteer information.
Jess said, (230 days ago)
Oh lord I hope not. BUT they do if they realise you are about to make a fool out of yourself.
Superion said, (230 days ago)
The rule is
Be kind
Be honest
You do not sacrifice one for the other, but start with being kind, and stick with being honest.
There's also the wisdom of knowing when and when not to give you opinion.
and I law her said, (230 days ago)
@ Grey: thankfully, my friend is contemplating none of the above. Maybe I should leave it be.
@ Lady O: my opinion was asked for in this situation. I think that's what makes it harder.
@ Rabbit: this friend has a great potential for making a fool out of herself.
@ Superion: those are good words to live by. Thanks :)
Jess said, (230 days ago)
Don't let her make a fool of herself. I always give good advice (especially romantic advice) in this regard, and the one time I needed someone to let me know I was being stupid no one came through. Be that someone.
FiZ said, (230 days ago)
Superion's got the right idea and this is how it's worked for me (with all my friends that have an ounce of sanity, that is): "I can tell you what you want to hear, and I can tell you what you need to hear- do you have any preference?"
Deep-Fried Goodness said, (229 days ago)
No. Everything I say is a lie. Except for the times when I tell the truth. And chances are, during those times I'm telling the truth, I may only be doing so because it's more beliveable then a lie or takes less effort. Or i may be just imagining you naked.
Deep-Fried Goodness said, (229 days ago)
@ Manuel: No
well, yes
accidentally
so no
it's a coincidence
or am i just picturing you naked?
Hell no...the honest friend is soon friend-less