I don't really care, but not in a bad way.

My view on the friend zone.

What kind of women put guys into the friend zone?

None.

Women don't put guys in the friend zone, guys put themselves into the friend zone with their behavior.

When most guys first meet girls, they act like the non-threatening nice guy friend because they don't want to offend her or scare her off. That's how guys end up in the friend zone. Let her know that you aren't the "friend guy" by not acting like the "friend guy."

If you act like like a friend for the large majority of knowing someone then launch into "I want in your pants" they'll be like, "Wait, what? I thought we were friends because you've been acting like a friend since we met."

When you are interested in a girl, state your intentions. I don't mean explicitly like, "I want in your pants asafp." Let her know that you see her as more than a friend.  Do it as soon as possible so it's less likely that she'll only see you just as a friend. Flirt with her. Call her "sexy" instead of "cute." Engage in physical contact. Stuff like that. Don't be afraid to offend her with your sexuality. Now, I don't mean whip out your penis and smack her across the face with it, but acknowledge the fact that you are a sexual creature and that you find her attractive. Don't be afraid of being a man, and don't apologize for it either. You know you're a guy and so does she. So act like it.

 

If she's not into you, she's not into you. If she says "let's just be friends," only be friends if you can honestly be a friend. Be her friend, don't be the guy sticking around with an ulterior motive "just in case." You're just going to end up harboring some deep seeded resentment for her for not choosing you and ending up with people who you feel are substandard because they aren't you.

And no, you're not going to friend your way into a relationship. "Maybe after 5 years of confiding in me she'll realize what a great person I am and she'll love me." Not gonna happen. That only works in movies and maybe 2% of reality- and those odds suck. So put yourself out there. If you get rejected, oh well, that sucks but you'll get over it.

Posted 83 days ago | 27 comments

A word on rejection.

I think a lot of guys have a secret fear of women. It's like they think women have all this power.

Most guys feel like they need a woman to validate them. It proves to themselves that someone else can find them attractive. We all love feeling atttractive and being attractive, don't we?

 

But, if you've given her the power to validate you, then you've also given her the power to invalidate you.

Posted 96 days ago | 14 comments

There's a big difference between being good-looking and being attractive.

Everyone knows some guys who aren't that the best looking. They're short, they have goofy ears, a big nose, fucked up teeth, whatever. BUT, they have a presence because of who they are and who they know they are. Women are drawn to them because of it (and so are other guys.) They have a charisma, spark, passion that most guys don't have and it's magnetic.. it's by defintion attracting.

Women are attracted to purpose, confidence, vision and the way guys live their lives.

Posted 97 days ago | 18 comments